Lucie D’Alessandro from Delvespot is a soul sister in combining well-being with art and creativity, beautiful story teller, writer and a true wellness warrior. Her words and journey will touch your heart and soul, inspiring and encouraging you to really live heart centered life full of health, creative expression and happiness through vulnerability, courage and confidence.
Lucie D’Alessandro is a writer and creative catalyst, helping people bring their ideas alive to start doing work they love. She dares to live deeply.
(Pictures courtesy of Lucie D’Alessandro)
What does creativity mean to you, and why is it important to you in being creative?
Divine expression of myself. Expansiveness. Center. I’ve spent many years hiding myself and my gifts – stuck in a nine-to-fiver, scared to unveil work from my heart and hands because of self doubt – so now to be able to dive within and pull from there to create is the ultimate in being me. That’s why we’re here, isn’t it?
Which artist, writer, musician or other talented person has inspired you the most and why?
My former husband who’s a musician (in fact, we met when he was on tour in Germany). I never understood his devotion – what I used to see as obsession – to music, constantly honing his skills as a drummer, doing whatever it took to play a gig, at some times playing 3-4 times a week, driving hours either way, while working full time. Literally living, breathing and sleeping music. It wasn’t until I allowed myself to start to step into my calling that I got even an inkling of what he was driven by. Now, many years later, I realize he was listening to his calling. Being in service to it. Honoring it. And that’s a really beautiful, admirable, brave way of being that few of us allow ourselves to experience (but for him, there’s no other way).
What are your creative outlets and talents that you nourish on a regular basis?
Writing and sharing my stories. Stream of consciousness writing (for my eyes only, thankfully for all of us). Cooking with my organic goodies from the farmers’ market, recipe-less.
Tell me a short story about a piece of music, painting, book, or some other artistic creation that has touched you very deeply?
I’m the youngest of 4 kids by many years. When I was about 11, my 21 year-old brother visited from Australia (or London, can’t remember) with his then-girlfriend, Casper. She had bleach-blonde short hair and was an artist – fascinated me, as a little netball-playing bookworm. She gave me one of her prints, black and white, on thick white stock. I loved it instantly without particular reason, and can still see the image of a horse-like being sitting in a throne-like thing. She inscribed it for me, “A dream horse for Lucie”, words that have also stuck with me. I still have the print. It traveled from New Zealand to New York with me, hanging on my lounge room wall there.
Do you desire to do something that you haven’t yet had courage or resources to make into reality? How do you see this coming to fruition?
Oh boy, where do I begin? There are so many projects floating around in my mind and heart, polished and in a nebulous form.
My biggie is creating and facilitating a workshop/retreat – although I don’t know precisely what about. But I see it and feel it (and taste the raw chocolate, which will be abundant). Something to do with daring to live deeply – both doing work you love or fulfilling your passion on the side, and living with intention. Guest teachers that make you swoooooon. Long organic lunches. A big old stunner of a house on the Hudson River, or in Savannah. Community, connection, heart.
How do I see it coming to fruition? Taking small steps. Continuing to date my dream – listening to the answers. Being patient. Reaching out and creating connections with people I feel drawn to. Being open. Which I realize all sounds very go-with-the-flow, and it is – just a note that I’m a recovering perfectionist and control freak, so I work hard at letting go because I have to. (Ha! “I work hard at letting go.” Only a perfectionist would say that!)
Where do you get your inspiration, and how do you tap into your creative flow?
When I’m writing, sometimes the words come to me with urgency, like a puppy waiting to be let out of the gate – all I have to do is open the gate and they gallop out. I don’t necessarily know what the words are, but I feel that they’re there and are ready to be channeled. Other times, often, I feel the call to write but there are no words at the end of my fingertips, so I read, usually articles from writers/blogs I love online. When I read a piece by someone that makes me shake my head in amazement and stare off in the distance, it tops me up. Inspires me. And then I can write, usually effortlessly.
What has been the most important tool/action that has helped you to overcome self-defeating thoughts, and/or feelings that you are not good enough?
Being aware of what I’m thinking (because for a long time I didn’t even register my pretty much consistent self-berating), and being gentle with myself. I’ve spent most of my life being incredibly tough on myself – and others – so one of my mantras is Be gentle.
How do you create inner balance in your life, and make sure to listen to your intuition?
I’m not great at creating balance, to be honest. I get obsessive about things – if I’m writing or have a project I love, I’ll go hard at it, forgetting the rest of the world exists, not getting enough sleep, or even seeing the light of day. One on hand, it’s a beautiful thing to feed my creative urges, on the other hand, really crappy for my self-care and health (which is crucial for me, in reality). I try to make a habit of doing a guided yoga nidra 3-4 times a week, which settles my nervous system, have a home yoga practice, walk almost every day (one of my favorite things to do, ever), eat only organic wholefoods, drink lots of veggie juice, lie on the grass (so grounding… Literally!). These things help maintain an inner balance.
Learning to listen to my intuition has been a work in progress – a new way of being for me in the past few years. I try to slow down and tap into how I feel and go with that – trust it.
What is your non-negotiable daily self-care action?
Eating organic wholefoods. Everything else isn’t quite daily! (Like walks, yoga, naps, listening to my body, etc.)
What brings joy into your life, and what do you appreciate today?
Oh, man, all of it. Really. I appreciate the complexity of life. And then I appreciate the ability to be here with all of it – the delicious and the difficult moments. It’s not easy, but I know my life changed when I actively started to feel into life, to see the yin and yang no matter what was going on. And there’s been a LOT going on the past few years, with a major health issue, giving up life as I knew it to focus on my wellbeing, the breakup of my marriage, starting my own business… And living with my parents as an adult!
How would you encourage other people on their journey to creativity and self-acceptance? How would you advise them to move forward?
Just be you and keep taking small steps. If you’re not sure how, then do what lights you up – that’s being you. And act from love, in all areas of life, to all people including yourself.