Is it easy for you to remember a moment in your life when you last felt joy, true happiness, or peace within you and with the surrounding world? When we ask ourselves this question our mind most likely tends to go back to stressful and negative situations. Sometimes you have to wait a little bit longer to access your positive memories. Go on and make that into a new habit. As with anything else it just takes a little bit of practice to start to remember all those wonderful things that you thought you had long forgotten.
I just finished reading Dr. John F. Demartini’s book Count your Blessings and he states that “It’s amazing how many people begin their day – not with a sense of inspiration, but with resignation, depression and even desperation.” Statistics have actually revealed that most heart attacks happen on Monday morning. I confess, I used to be one of those people too. Getting out of bed used to be the most difficult thing for me to do. It is still like that sometimes, but mostly I wake up with anticipation and gratefulness and feel that there’s so much that I can learn and do that it feels difficult to choose where to start.
Demartini writes that the more we listen to our intuition and inner voice, the better we realize that when we do what we love, we are most fulfilled and appreciate each day even more. Then your body is also filled with more vitality and healing energy.
I have learned the hard way that if I try to do something that is against my own intuition and feelings I’m literally able to have a panic attack. I have spent many sleepless nights causing my anxiety to get really bad and having the feeling that joy has been taken out from my life. Often we try to mask these symptoms and ignore the root cause. However this doesn’t work in a long run. If we have been lying to ourselves for years the road back can be difficult and take time, but it’s certainly worth it. It’s never too late.
Now it’s the beginning of a February and within a couple of weeks it’s Valentine’s Day. Days are starting to get longer, it’s a time of renewing and growth. In London I can hear the birds singing and feel the warmth of the sun. What could be a better month to start paying more attention to yourself and add more self-care, fun and things that you enjoy into your routine. Starting right NOW. My friend and colleague Ashley has dedicated all of February to self-love in her blog. She is posting tips and recipes every day. Go and check them out.
My February’s tip, inspired by the book (see the photograph above), on my website is to write love lists: Write down everything that brings joy, gratitude and happiness into your life. Keep that list with you and every time you feel that negative thoughts and sadness start to emerge, read your list.
I’m not saying that you should ignore feelings of sadness but this definitely helps you to feel better and gives you perspective if you start ruminating with your thoughts without resolving the real issues.
There are some different ways that you can do this. You can have a master list where you add your thoughts as they pop into your mind. You can create a new gratitude list every morning, or evening before you go to bed. You can write down all the past experiences that you have appreciated or that have brought joy to your life. You can write down things that you love to do, would love to try or love to see. Experiment and see what works best for you.
Below I listed some things that make me happy.
When the sun starts to set and the buildings in the city reflect the rays of light off their windows and everything sparkles with golden light.
Having my favorite green smoothie from a fancy wine glass.
Realizing that I got the steps right in a difficult choreography without really thinking and concentrating only dancing.
Noticing the beautiful details of old buildings when you look up while you are walking.
Walking outside when all other people are still sleeping and it starts to snow.
Figuring out the right code to change desired element on my website that I have been working on with couple of days.
Blueberry and banana pancakes
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